Your Life Fully
If you are like me, you may have questioned why in the heck you got married! If you have been married for a very long time, you may have wondered how you have managed to stay married for all of those long years. It is a common question to ask yourself sooo...yes, I'm pretty confident you've pondered the very same question! Because marriage is hard right? It is an ongoing commitment beyond saying... Read more
If you are like me, you may have questioned...why in the heck you got married! If you have been married for a very long time, you may have wondered how you have managed to stay married for all of those long years. It is a common question to ask yourself... sooo...yes, I'm pretty confident you've pondered the very same question! Because marriage is hard right? It is an ongoing commitment beyond saying the questionable "I DO".
It warms my heart when I see old couples still holding hands and showing sincere appreciation and love for each other! It inspires my heart once again that true Love does exist and can potentionally last..."Till death do us part".
I am one of the minority of people that have been married for over a quarter of a century. Which is not too common these days since many people do not make it much past 10 years.
I wish I could say that... I am blissfully in love...the same as when we first started dating or early on in our marriage! And in a perfect world, I would wish he was the love of my life or my soul mate, but I'm not so sure that, that exists for majority of couples. I'm not even convinced that there is one soul mate for each of and every one of us!
It is a natural course of life for the feelings of love to change in time. You may still have love for your spouse,... but in a different way!...Perfectly normal. If there was a way for marriage to easily become null and void without a complicated divorce then there would be many more couples calling it quits.
That is where gratitude comes in!... Shear appreciation for the person you've bonded with for many years!
I do love my hubby greatly! And I am very grateful for all that he has done and sacrificed for our family! I married him for security and knowing he would be a fantastic father figure... for our 'someday' children!
The same reasons I married him still stand true today. He keeps us safe, warm, secure and he is a great dad!
So...our marriage contract is NOT "null and void".
He is a wonderful man, plus still handsome as ever (bonus)! Though he is sometimes critical and a bit defensive (drives me crazy), I am also very sure that there are most likely many ways in which I am not perfect or not holding up to his standards.
Still ...our marriage contract is NOT "null and void".
I often wonder how did I stay married for almost 30 years even though I'm not sure if I even believe in marriage - with today's day and age of disposable feelings? Plus, how am I still married even though I would love to have my own space and freedom? I believe the answer is the "gratitude" that I have for my spouse plus the unconditional love that I have for my family unit!
Unfortunately there are far and few couples that can stay in love for their whole married life! Some marriages come to an end, even though there is still love in the heart. I don't quite understand how some couples can casually walk away for trivial reasons!
My question is this,... IF there WAS something special there, once before.....where did it go? I understand that the answer to that question would probably depend on many various underlying circumstances surrounding the relationship.
I do however understand about those who break up because they married way too young, before they even knew what love was and ended up with no compatibility or chemistry. Society simply assumes that people got married because they were Blissfully In Love,.... which is not always the case, trust me! Hence, you do not hear very much understanding or support for those who got married before they were mature enough to know who they truly were or what they want out of life!
The type and amount of love may change to a different degree after many years of marriage, but gratitude should still be there! Right? After all, he or she is the person that has seen you through many ups and downs and changes. Sickness and in health and so forth. Isn't that worth the gratitude?
Try this...Make a list of all that your spouse has done for you and your family. Look deeper into the reasons you want to walk away and see if a change of heart can take place with feelings of gratitude.
I am not in anyway a marriage expert but I encourage you... that if or when the love for your significant other fades, look deeper inside, because the gratitude could very well blossom into falling in love all over again! Who knows, right? ttyl
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SMILES 😀 and THANKS, Lorrie
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